Leading by Example
By Trudy Spikes
In life there always must be a leader, someone to lead the pack. Good leadership is a must in this thing we call life.
When my husband and I decided to start a family, we had a meeting about how we would raise our children. And yes, we would lead by example. We made a pack with each other that we would make sure our children saw that we:
Loved God and put Him first in everything we did.
Loved going to the house of God.
Loved the people of God.
Show them how to love others.
Teach them to pray and read the Word.
Teach them to give tithes and offerings and that God blesses the giver.
There were lots of prayer meetings in our home. It was no new thing for Dad to call a prayer line right in the house. Everyone was prayed for. One day my daughter’s friend came over during such a prayer meeting. Guess what. He didn’t stop. “Come on, girl, we’re praying for you too.” She later became my daughter-in-law.
“When I call to remembrance the unfeigned faith that is in thee, which dwelt first in thy grandmother Lois, and thy mother Eunice; and I am persuaded that in thee also.” (II Timothy 1:5)
As a pastor’s wife, I led by example during services. I was the first one on my feet to promote worship. My children learned by my example and quickly followed. It was not because I made them or told them to, but it was born in them from their relationship with the Master. Soon others followed. My wonderful husband, prayer warrior, father, and friend to all who knew him, left a great legacy nine years ago when he took his heavenly flight. Our daughter and son-in-law then stepped into the leadership role and are carrying the torch. Their children are now leading.
Proverbs 22:6 says, “Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it.”
One evangelist once observed our children and described them this way. Kent, the oldest, is a servant and loves serving others. Tiffany, our daughter is like Miriam, a worship leader. Jeremy is a preacher. Trent was too young to decide. We tried to lead our children by example to be used in the kingdom of God.
It is much better to show our children what to do than merely tell them. Here is the key. Be real. Children know and feel what is real so they must see that we are real.
(Information from: UPCI Ladies Ministries – firstname.lastname@example.org)